After a couple years, I’ve come to adopt some very simple rules for memory management.

Concepts

The first step is to pick up a few concepts that will help you as you code.

• Be lazy in memory management. Rely on the compiler to do everything it possibly can. The compiler can synthesize property setters that handle memory management according to the rules you set. Rely on this.
• Ownership. Think in terms of ownership, rather than reference counting. Thinking in terms of ownership makes problems and solutions obvious. Thinking in terms of ownership will help you keep in mind the why of what you’re doing, rather than the what. After you’ve got a good grasp of why, the what becomes obvious.
• Protect your objects. Own any object that you want to keep around as long as self is around.
• Avoid circular references. Never own an object that could own self. This means never owning self‘s delegate or data source.

Practical guidelines

But how does this translate to code? There’s a few specific and concrete things you can do to make this easier on yourself:

• Use properties to centralize memory management rules. Use @property to establish the rules for memory management of an instance variable. (And @synthesize your properties to underscored instance variables to prevent naming conflicts.)
• Pick the right memory management rule. Use retain properties as your default. Data sources, delegates or other objects that might own the object you’re working in should be assign properties instead of retain.
• Rely on the centralized memory management rules. Use property set notation (self.foo = nil;) or the property setter ([self setFoo: nil];) everywhere you change the property’s value except in the property’s setter (if you need one) In this way, you rely on the retain or assign in your @property to specify the memory management. If you need to use retain, release or autorelease outside of a setter you’re doing too much. (And, also, you’ll have more work to do to be compatible with ARC.)
• Avoid being called once deallocated. In dealloc, nil any delegates you’ve set to self. (This eliminates the possibility that the object will survive longer than self and try to send messages to self.)
• Protect your private bits, too. Don’t use raw instance variables in objects requiring memory management. Use anonymous properties.
• Containers own their contents. You not only don’t need to but must not try to manage memory in a system container. An NSArray will send a retain to objects that are added to it, and a release to objects as they are removed. If you try to manually retain and release objects, you’ll miss a case.
• Verify. Analyze your code frequently. And profile your code early and often for leaks.

Chris Parker (who “works for a fruit company in Cupertino”) via Twitter:

Hey iPhone devs: sending synchronous requests via NSURL on the main thread is a good way to have SpringBoard kill you. Don’t do that.